We all know someone who has bought a sports car in their 40s or 50s or taken up an extreme sport or had an attraction to someone much younger than themselves.
Why do we want that fast car or are flattered by the attentions of a younger colleague? And what does it really mean to us?
Our middle aged years can be very challenging at times with many demands being made on us whilst we also begin to see signs in ourselves of growing older. This can feel difficult.
However if we take some time to look objectively at our life we may be able to work out what we are actually struggling with. It could be:
- ageing parents
- ill health
- decrease in energy and fitness
- lack of leisure time and socialising
These are all normal circumstances for people in their midlives to be facing.
We are now possibly half way through our life and we have some choices to make:
We can either accept our age and stage of life: by thinking and talking about it and what it means to us and then hopefully embracing it
or we can avoid the signs and continue, consciously or unconsciously, in denial of the reality of our situation – maybe because we are not comfortable with the thought of getting older.
If we are able to face up to the fact that we are not getting any younger and are now in the last half of our life then we may be able to relax about it and carry on in a more positive way.
By our 40s and 50s, we have acquired considerable experience and knowledge. If we add that to the people and resources we also have, then we can create a satisfying and maybe even exciting second half of our life.
We obviously don’t need to set up a world wide foundation like Bill and Melinda Gates in our middle years, but we do owe it to ourselves and those we love to live as fulfilling and content a middle and old age as we can.