Moving home is generally acknowledged to be a major stressful life event. Whether you’re moving into a rented house share or buying your own home, moving house is always more involved than we first envisage.
The excitement and fantasy of living in your new home will fire you up with the necessary energy and bravery to begin with. Imagining your possessions around you in a new space can be exhilarating. However, the reality, commitment and gravitas of the process will soon become apparent and may begin to feel daunting over time. All sorts of unexpected events can create hurdles along the way and it is really important to keep things in perspective.
Here are some ideas for managing the stressful parts of moving home:
- Give yourself more time than you think you will need for packing up your current possessions and furniture.
- Feel in control and know that you are an important cog of the wheel in the process, be assertive with pushy estate agents and solicitors if necessary.
- Be organized and keep designated folders for relevant paperwork and emails.
- Share out and delegate tasks so you know who is doing what and no one wastes time duplicating errands.
- Ask for help with tasks like viewing, packing, childcare and unpacking.
- Communicate daily with your partner / family / support network and try to restrict discussions about your move to one comprehensive catch up so that moving home doesn’t take over every other aspect of the relationship or family life.
- Keep the move in perspective. Have quality time to relax and have fun – book a massage, go to the cinema or have a family day out.
- Pay for as much assistance as you can afford, for example: packing, moving and cleaning the old and new properties.
- Factor in time to say goodbye to current neighbours and friends; it’s important to give good friendships the farewells they deserve, even if you are able to keep in touch these relationships will change to some extent.
Relocating can stir up many emotions, including good and bad memories of times in the old home. You are now in the next phase of your life. Your new home will hopefully bring new opportunities and relationships into your life. Embrace this new chapter whilst also acknowledging what you are leaving behind.
My next post is about settling into a new area.