Internet Dating – Part 2

 

Creating A Dating Profile

So you’ve taken the plunge and decided which internet site to use. Now you realise you may need a Masters in creativity and the wit of Sandi Toksvig to get your profile viewed, let alone make it through to actually meeting anyone on a date.

 

So What Is My Dating Profile For?

The purpose of your profile is to hook someone in so that they want to find out more about you. The idea is to strike a balance between giving enough information about yourself to give an honest reflection of who you are and also what you are looking for. Keep in mind that most internet dating sites are accessible for anyone to search. So ex-partners, friends, employees and clients may be able to access your profile through a search. Remember to keep within certain boundaries when composing your profile and only give out information which you feel comfortable being made public.

 

How Do I Go About It?

Firstly you may need a username and/or short strapline or introductory sentence which will appear under your photo. It’s best not to overthink this. Depending on your personal or professional circumstances you may not wish to use your real name so a short word or phrase to indicate something you are interested in will suffice.

Next you will need a photograph. A current head and shoulders shot is fine. Avoid professional photos and adding a full length shot is also a good idea so people can see that your photo matches your written profile. If, like most of us, you don’t have a portfolio of flattering photos to choose from then ask a trusted friend to take a few of you when you are next out and about. Research has shown that profiles without photos are overlooked hugely. The more shots you can add the better and the more interesting and fuller aspect you give of yourself.

 

What Should I Write?

Finally the text of the profile needs to be added. The more information you write to give a flavour of yourself the better.

There are a host of online blog pages to help you with the text. Here are a few:

http://hellogiggles.com/learned-writing-peoples-online-dating-profiles

http://uk.askmen.com/dating/heidi/how-to-write-an-online-dating-profile-2.html

http://www.marieclaire.co.uk/blogs/543390/15-ways-to-make-your-online-dating-profile-stand-out-from-the-pack-1.html

and remember to run it by a friend for feedback before you post!

Good luck and Happy Valentine’s Day

 

My next and final blog post on internet dating includes tips on dating someone from an online site.

Internet Dating – Part 1

 

Where Can I Find Single People?

So how do we meet like-minded single people? Well the obvious way is at work or through our circle of friends. But these may not offer a wealth of eligible singletons. The other ideal scenario is to find love doing something you love doing. So why not join that running club you’ve always been meaning to or pop along to your local Meetup group?

If those don’t work then internet dating may be the answer. There are, of course, pros and cons to internet dating. Pros being that one can get straight on to the dating business with someone you know also wants to date. Assuming that people are being honest in their profiles you can quickly establish a little about the person, their current circumstances and what they are looking for.

 

Is Internet Dating Safe?

However a possible downside is that anyone can set up a profile and start dating. Even the most expensive of online dating sites do not check the id of their members so it’s recommended you take a little time to find out if a person really is who they say they are. If you do meet someone you want to date exclusively then it is far better to have the “exclusivity chat” (see part 3 in this series) before either of you stop dating other people.

 

Which Online Dating Site Should I Use?

There are many internet dating websites to choose from. Websites like Plenty of Fish and apps like Tinder are free to join and use. This means that there are a lot of people on the site and a large variety of people seeking various things. Having said that it is possible to search on Plenty of Fish under what kind of liaison or relationship you are interested in. I know several people who have met their lifelong partners through this site.

 

Are There More Selective Websites?

At the other end of the spectrum are websites like www.elitesingles.co.uk which is at the higher end of the fee scale and takes a serious amount of time and effort to join. This should weed out people not interested in serious dating.

 

How Much Will It Cost?

All internet dating sites have offers on most of the time and once you have decided which one to go for it is also worth calling them to ask what is their current best deal.

 

Are There Any Other Ways To Meet People?

There are of course some old school introduction agencies eg www.carolinecrowther.com which may be another avenue to research and of course speed dating www.dorset-speed-dating.co.uk which I’m reliably informed is a fun night out if nothing else!

 

Find out how to write your dating profile in my next post.